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Q: How do I know if I’m promiscuous or just normally enjoying sex with several partners? Female, Junior
A: Promiscuity is a label that some people use to describe the behavior of those who have sex with a variety of different partners on a casual basis. Because of the double standard, it’s more often used in a negative way to describe women. Clearly there are some people who enjoy sex with a variety of partners, and prefer to avoid getting emotionally involved. If a person engages in this kind of behavior in a responsible, non-exploitative manner, taking appropriate steps to reduce risks of disease and pregnancy, and emerges from them without negative feelings or conflict, there is no particular reason to judge the behavior as a problem. Sometimes, however, having multiple sex partners may be motivated by something else. Many of us have probably seen people engaging in random sex for reasons that are not always positive such as an unsatisfied personal life or lack of self-respect. Certainly some people feel a need to prove themselves. Multiple sexual encounters may also represent a means of escape or retaliation for a troubled relationship. In these cases, the person has the potential of creating more serious problems. Hopefully they can take a moment to look at their motives - talk with someone about what is going on and develop more appropriate ways to deal with these stresses. I suggest you look at your motives for having sex and decide.
Q: Are there certain foods that stimulate sex or sexual desire? I think so, but maybe that’s just me. Male, Sophomore
A: It’s true that some foods and chemicals have been alleged to act as sexual stimulants for those who consume them. These are called aphrodisiacs. A wide variety of substances have been labeled aphrodisiacs, including powdered rhinoceros’s horn, powdered stag’s horn, dried salamanders and dried beetles (just the thought of ingesting such things makes me lose interest!!!), along with some foods such as eggs, olives, peanuts, oysters, venison, and bananas. While research would suggest that there are no real aphrodisiacs, it is probably true that so-called aphrodisiacs work because their user believes in their effectiveness. Some researchers have said that one of the most effective aphrodisiacs is an interesting and expressively interested partner.
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